To Audrie Pott and Rehtaeh Parsons and the other women who have fallen victim to this plague of sexual assaults perpetuated by the rapists and communities by fishing the pictures around on the Internet, cell phones and FaceBook.
As horrific and repellent as sexual assault of any kind is, why in the world people would share pictures of a young girl’s sexual assault is completely incomprehensible. And to harass women into suicide? What suburbs of Hell did these young women live in?
Stories like this really make me question how women are valued in society. Particularly younger women, and women who aren’t married. Where the heck were law enforcement, prosecutors, principals, teachers, parents, electeds, community leaders when these things were going on? The message is, if you go out without a armed escort, and someone hurts you, well, that what happens. There’s always another woman right around the corner, plenty of cannon fodder, don’t expect any help. Drug you, rape you, perpetuate the humiliation. Boys will be boys! There have been points in recent times when I have really come close to the conclusion that women really have lost their status as people to many in our society.
No letting the parents off the hook. What was going on in some of the households where these boys were raised? Who are their mothers? What were their parents teaching them?
And I put a lot of women in “leadership” positions on the hook for this as well. Progress has been slow, but I bet every single one of the communities where this type of thing has been going on has at least one woman on the city council, in the executive office at the school district, in the mayor’s cabinet, in the DA’s office. Where the heck were you?
Honestly, I get sick of all the “girls you need to believe in yourself.” We do. The women young and old that I see believe in themselves. Women aren’t the problem. What we need is for society to believe in us and our value. That’s the part that isn’t gelling.
To half of society. We are here.