The thing about feminism is, I don’t think even women really know what it means. Does it mean it is bad to get married young and spend your adult life having children, taking care of a family, and “accepting the life your husband gives you”?
I think some first generation feminists might say it is. Others of more temperate view might point out that failing to prepare for a life of work outside the home, a job, career might be a bit risky since one never really knew what would happen to one’s husband in the long run. Death, disability, emotional instability on the part of the husband—all could tank the family fortunes in one fell swoop. Best to have a back up plan.
Of course, then there is the extreme of women who really really really wish that they didn’t have to allude to any aspirations of anything outside the home, and those who think that actual careers and professional lives are putting on airs or perhaps something reserved for the highest classes only and that to which the bulk of us have no business aspiring to.
Mostly, I think we would all do ourselves a favor if we accepted the choices of others and steered clear of judging the Sisterhood. Perhaps easier said than done, but that does not mean it is a choice nonetheless.
Put simply, I don’t think any woman helps herself or helps women generally by taking a piece out of other women. If only. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, I am a fan of Ms. Madeline Albright and I agree whole heartedly with her words: “There’s a special place in Hell for women who don’t help other women.”
I guess my philosophy is it is about choice, for both women and men. No this for women, this for men. This for People.
That doesn’t mean that there aren’t differences and we don’t acknowledge the differences. One thing is the same, man or woman. We have a mind and we know our mind better than anyone and what works for us and what doesn’t we know better for ourselves than anyone else.
The best example? How about, Free to Be You and Me, “William Wants a Doll.” Maybe a male wants to take care of a baby. What’s the flaw in that? That doesn’t mean he doesn’t have a job. Maybe a woman wants to fight in the military or go to the Moon. That doesn’t mean she doesn’t have a baby.
Maybe a woman or a man (or both?) believes work and family can be *balanced.* It’s not impossible and it isn’t “having it all” just having a career and a family, and maybe saying no to some other things like—monster mini-castles, big vacations, drinking five nights a week, a new car every other year, designer clothes, etc. There’s more to life than a little bit of money. Don’t you know that.
Keep in mind, it wasn’t that long ago that most people thought women shouldn’t drive a car. That’s changed.
Haters gonna hate. If someone else doesn’t like your choice, you can’t do anything about that. If they are going to take it out on you, with me or against me, then that’s what they choose. Choose happiness. Choose Love. 🙂 Get your Sermons from the Choir; Preach to the Uninitiated.